How do we look at intimacy and sex through the eyes of wholeness? There are plenty of sources out there in the world that will teach the how to's of sex. Looking simply at the physical aspect of this powerful gift is neglecting the other 3 aspects of who we are: mental, emotional, spiritual. I loved this quote from Marianne Williamson.
To become intimate with something we must have a close personal connection to it. How can we say we are intimate with someone when we do not know their heart? If we do not understand their spirit? Or we do not connect to their thoughts and their mind? Close personal relations cannot exist without connections on all of these levels. So here is a simple and beautiful invitation...take time to CONNECT. Connect heart to heart with the one you love. Look into their eyes and really SEE who the are. Speak your thoughts and when they speak, LISTEN with your heart. Share your dreams and ENVISION LIFE TOGETHER. See each others divinity. Help each other rise to be a better person. There is so much more to create in a relationship than merely the physical aspect of having sex. True intimacy is there for you. Deep connections can be yours.
Men may or may not feel the need for the deep emotional connection. Enjoying sex on a physical level is often fulfilling for them. Find the balance. Find the way to meet both of your needs. A woman's desire for deep intimacy, and a man's desire to be fulfilled physically are both good. Both can be right. Validate both needs and be cr